Ted: Okay, I’m going to say something out loud that I’ve been doing a pretty good job of not saying out loud lately. What you and Tony have, what I thought for a second you and I had, what I know that Marshall and Lily have, I want that. I do. I keep waiting for it to happen. I’m waiting for it to happen and I guess I’m just tired of waiting. And that is all I’m going to say on that subject.

Stella: You know how I talked my way out of a speeding ticket? I was heading upstate with my parents, I was doing 90 on the country roads. I got pulled over. So this cop, gets out of his car, swaggers over and he says, ‘Lady, I’ve been waiting for you all day.’ And I said, ‘Sorry Officer, I got here as fast as I could.’

Ted: For real?

Stella: No, it’s just a joke. [pause] I know that you’re tired of waiting. And you may have to wait a little while more but, she’s on her way, Ted. And she’s getting here as fast as she can.

from How I Met Your Mother

I just finished reading Tuesdays with Morrie, and I’m putting one particular concept into good use right now.

“You know what the Buddhists say?  Don’t cling to things, because everything is impermanent”

But wait, I said.  Aren’t you always talking about experiencing life?  All the good emotions, all the bad ones?

“Yes”

Well, how can you do that if you’re detached?

“Ah. You’re thinking, Mitch. But detachment doesn’t mean you don’t let the experience penetrate you. On the contrary, you let it penetrate you fully. That’s how you are able to leave it.”

I’m lost.

“Take any emotion–love for a woman, or grief for a loved one, or what I’m going through, fear and pain from a deadly illness. If you hold back on the emotions–if you don’t allow yourself to go all the way through them–you can never get to being detached, you’re too busy being afraid. You’re afraid of the pain, you’re afraid of the grief. You’re afraid of the vulnerability that loving entails.

“But by throwing yourself into these emotions, by allowing yourself to dive in, all the way, over your head even, you experience them fully and completely. You know what pain is. You know what love is. You know what grief is. And only then can you say, ‘All right. I have experienced that emotion. I recognize that emotion. Now I need to detach from that emotion for a moment.’”

…

I thought about how often this was needed in every-day life. How we feel lonely, sometimes to the point of tears, but we don’t let those tears come because we are not supposed to cry. Or how we feel a surge of love for a partner but we don’t say anything because we’re frozen with the fear of what those words might do to the relationship.

Morrie’s approach was exactly the opposite. Turn on the faucet. Wash yourself with the emotion. It won’t hurt you. It will only help. If you let the fear inside, if you pull it on like a familiar shirt, then you can say to yourself, “All right, it’s just fear, I don’t have to let it control me. I see it for what it is.”

Same for loneliness: you let go; let the tears flow, feel it completely–but eventually be able to say, “All right, that was my moment with loneliness. I’m not afraid of feeling lonely, but now I’m going to put that loneliness aside and know that there are other emotions in the world, and I’m going to experience them as well.”

“Detach,” Morrie said once again.

Too bad I only just realized I’ve been doing it wrong when the good emotions have gone and the bad have come.

Lina - Smooth

It’s heavy on my mind
The love we made
See I been struggling with this a long time, day after day
The fact that I love you but sometimes I just want to be through with you

Chorus I
Baby you the sun that, chases all the rain away
And, baby you’re the gray cloud that, darken a perfect day

Chorus II
What I wouldn’t do to make this thing go smooth (repeat)

Baby, baby when I look in your eyes, I see
That you are afraid, to give your heart, completely
I know that you love me but sometimes I just can’t get through, to you
You say I’m the one who put the smile on your face
But know, I can be the one, that take it all away

Chorus II
What I wouldn’t do to make this thing go smooth (repeat)

Could it be we miss the love songs the radio don’t play
That makes us give up so easy, and throw it all away
Nobody talks about love anymore
Everybody to busy getting paid
Oh, Oh, Oh

Chorus I
Baby you the sun that chases all the rain away
And baby you’re the gray cloud that darken a perfect day

Chorus II
What I wouldn’t do to make this thing go smooth (repeat)

Oh, I think we miss the love songs the radio don’t play
And trying to give up to easy and throw it all away
Nobody talks about love but everybody getting paid
What I wouldn’t do

陶吉吉 - 沙灘

空無一人　這片沙灘
風吹過來　冷冷海岸
我輕輕抖落鞋裡的沙　看著我的腳印
OH 一個人一步步　好寂寞

看海有些綠　天有些藍
那段愛情　有些遺憾
像不知不覺游向海天　到最深的地方
才發現妳早已經　放棄我

我聽著海浪　溫柔的呼吸
我看著雲朵　飄來飄去
有什麼方法　讓自己真的忘記

ONLY BLUE ONLY BLUE 愛讓人好憂鬱
我的心　我的心　藍藍地

我真的想　找一條船
能遠遠離開　這片沙灘
每次又回到同樣海邊　還是會對妳想念
想念妳有點 BLUE 沒有人能像妳
留給我的回憶　有點 BLUE OH
ONLY BLUE

Blackstreet - I Wanna be Your Man

Baby, Baby, Baby
I wanna know you,
Place no one above you
I wanna love you
Baby, Baby, Baby
I wanna be your man…

I remember the first time I came,
To this park
It was one day last May
I saw you lookin’ like a star..
I’ll never forget the scent of, your perfume
Girl I just gotta see you again..ohh..

To ask you may I have the chance to be with you
Girl I’ll never forget, how I traveled to the moon..
Now I’m waitin’ in the park.
Waitin after dark..
I’ve got to see you again… Oohh…

Baby, Baby, Baby (oh baby)
I wanna know you (wanna know you)
Place no one above you
I wanna love you..
Baby, Baby, Baby
I wanna be your man…

So I dream a little dream of us we’re, holding hands
And we’re takin’ long walks, down in love land
My palms are sweatin’ and my heart’s beatin’ fast
Cause you smiled and said you’d see me again..

I ain’t gonna let you get away this time
That’s why I waited here so long
I’m gonna make you mine
Still I’m waiting in the park,
Waitin’ after dark..
Waiting here to see you again…

Baby, Baby, Baby (oh baby)
I wanna know you (wanna know you)
Place no one above you.
I wanna love you..
Baby, Baby, Baby
I wanna be your man….

[Bridge]
I loved you from the moment,
That you graced your beauty
In front of me

And I just can’t wait baby
To see you again…
I wanna be your..
I wanna be your man……
(Listen baby)
I wanna be your man….